You’ll have bad times, and he’ll have good times
Doin’ things that you don’t understand
But if you love him, you’ll forgive him
Even though he’s hard to understand - Tammy Wynette
Sometimes it’s hard to be a woman, giving all your love to just one man. But for Camille Cosby and Dottie Sandusky, Stand by Your Man isn’t a song, it’s a marching order… a ticket to the grand ball of delusion. Two women, nary anything in common, but for husbands accused of reprehensible sex crimes, standing by their man, publicly, proudly, and… tragically.
As most of us know, 23 women have publicly accused Bill Cosby of sexual assault. 23. And it’s not just a swipe of the hand here, or a brush of the back there. It’s coercion, drugging, raping, fondling– the types of crimes that for less notable men would mean a fast track to San Quentin and a shower date with a tattooed behemoth named, “Soft Hammer.”
On Monday, Mrs. Cosby did what so many caught up in scandal do, she blamed the media. “There appears to be no vetting of my husband’s accusers before stories are published or aired,“ she said. Vet her husband’s accusers? This isn’t a solitary claim by a second-tier, unknown stylist, not that her claims would be any less valid, these are claims by some very high-profile women… women who’d be risking their careers with a bogus claim– Janice Dickinson, Beverly Johnson, Michelle Hurd.
Why would they lie?
By all accounts, Camille Cosby is a good woman. And for that matter, so is Dottie Sandusky. Last month, Mrs. Sandusky, the better half of convicted child predator, Jerry Sandusky, wrote a column for Pennsylvania’s The Patriot News, in which she declared, "Jerry is not a pedophile and he did not commit the horrible crimes for which he was convicted.”
Denial thy name is Dottie.
Jerry Sandusky was imprisoned for sexual crimes against children, 45 counts. Eight brave young men faced this monster in court and testified to Sandusky’s heinous, unspeakable acts. Yet, Mrs. Sandusky, for reasons most people truly can’t fathom, stands by her man. “I know what is true and I know that, contrary to apparent popular belief, I am not delusional.”
God love you, Dottie. God love you, Camille. Many a man dreams of a woman with such unwavering loyalty. But unshakable allegiance is misguided when it’s wasted on overwhelming accusations of deviancy.
It’s one thing to be supportive, it’s entirely another to occupy a world of denial so large it casts a towering shadow over reason and logic.
But like the song says…
And if you love him, oh be proud of him
‘Cause after all he’s just a man.